“How do we override our social needs [in order] to accomplish social distancing?” is the question asked in an article in Psychology Today. “If we want to get through this pandemic we need to acknowledge that our drive to be with other people is an essential part of being human. It's ingrained into who we are, and into how our culture operates. Knowing that being with others is our default, we must shift our focus so that we can fulfill our belonging needs without exposing ourselves or passing along the virus.” Knowing who we are and what our needs are helps us do what we need even though it is against our nature. We have to work at finding ways to connect with each other at a distance.
Last Saturday we had a great party with no guests. We cooked, cleaned, decorated, and got excited for the dinner party we were having that evening. And then we remembered that no one was coming over! We were having a virtual dinner party. It was an odd feeling because everything was as if people were coming.
Just before it was time to go virtual, we received a text message telling us there was something in our mailbox for dinner. Our friend John had left each of us a bottle so we could all be drinking the same wine. So much fun!
Along with the initial invitation, I told everyone I was planning to make coq au vin and sent a copy of my recipe just in case they wanted to make the same thing—they did! (See last weeks blog for the recipe)
At seven-thirty when we turned on our computers and saw everyone’s face on the screen, it actually didn’t matter that we weren’t in the same room.
At the end of the evening I asked if anyone wanted to do it again next Saturday? The answer was a unanimous yes; the truth is no one had any other plans. John and Judy took responsibility for organizing the next dinner party.
During the week Peter and Gindy suggested we should have a name and so we do! The Briarcliff Virtual Wine & Supper Club and thanks to John we also have a logo.
In one week we became official—how fun is that!
Since Passover and Easter are approaching and we already know we have to stay isolated, why not create a virtual celebration.
Now that we’ve discovered that virtual parties work really well, it’s time to explore other ways to stay sane and social. Here are a few ideas I came up with:
What is available at the moment is amazing and this is the perfect time to take advantage of all of it. Since we don’t really know when our isolation will come to an end, there is plenty of time to take advantage of all the resources that are available.
As we continue to see the effects of Covid 19 and are repeatedly being told we aren’t at the apex yet. All I can do is pray for everyone in the front lines. All of you who are fighting for us, helping our loved ones when they have nothing but you; saying thank you is not enough but it is a start and it’s important.
While I was looking for a way to help I found this organization that is raising money to help by getting restaurants who need help themselves to provide nutritious food to our health care workers. I can support that!
Here is a little about them.
Feeding heroes by parenthood together
WHY ARE WE DOING THIS?
Here is a link
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Having a party again is simply wonderful. Every summer, Mark, my husband, makes a gigantic paella and we invite friends to watch the process (trust me, it is a show) and eat the amazing results. The party always occurs between the 4th of July and the 14th, Bastille Day. Are you wondering why we make a paella to . . .