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THE DRESS: IS IT FOLLY OR POWER?

March 05, 2020 6 Comments

THE DRESS: IS IT FOLLY OR POWER?

It was Saturday afternoon and we were entering the very crowded lobby of Kleinfeld, the fabled wedding dress store in Manhattan. Our daughter, Olivia, was making her way to the main desk to check in for her appointment. Uncertain how they were going to accommodate all these people, we soon realized they knew what they were doing and at the appointed time we were shown into the salon and seated facing a mirror to await Olivia’s arrival in one of the dresses she was trying on.

We watched as women came and went, some timid, others exuberant, heading to their corners of the room. They paraded by in different dresses of assorted shapes and mixed trimmings. Some had deep décolletés, others low backs; some necklines were lace, others just plunged. Some styles were slinky, others accentuated waistlines. Some seemed wrong; others had so many frills the women almost got lost.

Through the commotion we heard oohs and aahs drawing our attention to admire. But it was only when there was an outburst of applause that we realized a young woman had said, "Yes—this is my dress!" The expression from the TLC show is “I said yes to the dress!” We watched as some people gathered and the rest of us turned to admire the bride who was smiling, holding a frame with the words “I said yes to the dress!” as everyone snapped pictures.

It is an experience!

But the real experience is what happens to the woman when she knows she’s selected her DRESS, the one that is perfect for her.

While looking in the mirror, she sees the refection of the woman she knows she is: beautiful, confident, happy. And as she looks at her audience, she realizes she is also admired.

The smile that appears on her face is magical because it is pure. She is experiencing pure pleasure at seeing the woman she dreamed of being staring back at her and realizing she was there all along.

What made this experience so special was that it didn’t just happen once. It happened every time a woman found her dress.

That a dress can make such an impact is thought provoking.

Can dressing up, both for men and women, make us feel good, stand a little straighter, and put a smile on our faces? If so, then clothes have power and are well worth the effort.

BTW—I’ve omitted telling you about Olivia’s dress because I’ve been sworn to secrecy. I can tell you that she found her dress and that she and the dress are gorgeous! I’ll show you after the wedding.

 

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6 Responses

Zoe Greenberg
Zoe Greenberg

March 12, 2020

Dear Adaline
Congratulations on your daughter! I’m so glad you had a wonderful experience. However I did not when I went four years ago with my now daughter-in-law to Kleinfeldt’s in New York. She is considered a plus size as she is a 12 and everything 12 and over is plus according to the wedding market. They had literally no samples in plus size for her to try so each dress she tried on was a new humiliation As it was unable to be zipped. They were not very accommodating nor particularly empathetic and after the experience I wrote them a scathing letter about how it had been a very negative experience for her. All girls are not a zero a two or a four. I never received a response so I have no idea if they have changed their policy. But she ended up going to a store that specialized in plus sizes and head a much better experience. If you look around you will notice that many more young women becoming brides are larger than the model size and the bridal market needs to recognize this and give them the opportunity for a more memorable experience of a lifetime.
Zoe Greenberg

Gindy Whitaker
Gindy Whitaker

March 06, 2020

What fun. Even without this dress, Olivia is beautiful, so it will be amazing to see how she looks on her very most special day…

Olivia Santiago
Olivia Santiago

March 06, 2020

The energy in that room was amazing. Women of all different shapes, sizes, ages, etc. Everyone was so confident and SO beautiful when they would walk out to show family and families. Everyone was unique. The support from everyone is what sticks out the most. Complete strangers saying the most encouraging words, telling you how beautiful you looked and cheering when you found “the dress”. I choke up more thinking about women supporting women so genuinely in that room more than when I think about finding the dress I’m going to get married in. In a world where there seems to be a lot of negative news… this reminds me that there is still a lot of love and a lot of good.

Turi Galbraith
Turi Galbraith

March 06, 2020

I bought my wedding dress at Kleinfeld in Brooklyn, their first store, in 1968. https://www.kleinfeldbridal.com/the-history-of-kleinfeld/

Adrisse Brandt
Adrisse Brandt

March 06, 2020

What a fun story! Thanks for sharing that incredible experience with us.

ARLENE VAQUER
ARLENE VAQUER

March 06, 2020

You described the experience so beautifully! Size and shape didn’t matter… every young woman in the shop was a princess…

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